03-Aug-2007, 01:15 PM
here in Holland, if you live together, bed and table as its said here, for 5 years or longer you have the same rights as a married couple if you split up. On the other hand I have married for the second time, after 2 years with my 2nd husband I gave him the choice, married or go our seperate ways, like most of you I believe if you are with a person then marriage is part of staying together,after 19 years with my first husband, I wasnt really looking for hubby 2 but I am of the old school, living together means you are playing home with someone but dont want to take on the responsibility of marriage, home and children, who has children without the marriage
what are we showing our children, its ok to be a parent but not a wife or husband???
I de believe that people who can marry(same sex couples)who spend their lives together should have rights to the benifits of a married couple, tax and so forth but I honestly believe living together, not married, makes its too easy for one or both to have people outside their relationshipship. My husband now always said, if he was married he could just leave or have a bit on the side but once married, he would do niether. Isnt that what marriage is all about, being there for each other and always being true to each other???
what are we showing our children, its ok to be a parent but not a wife or husband???
I de believe that people who can marry(same sex couples)who spend their lives together should have rights to the benifits of a married couple, tax and so forth but I honestly believe living together, not married, makes its too easy for one or both to have people outside their relationshipship. My husband now always said, if he was married he could just leave or have a bit on the side but once married, he would do niether. Isnt that what marriage is all about, being there for each other and always being true to each other???
[julie]