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I found this article in yesterday's paper fascinating.
http://lifeandhealth.guardian.co.uk/wellbeing/story/0,,2225523,00.html
I was convinced at the time that my Dad waited to die until all of us except my brother had left the room, so as not to upset us more than necessary. The doctor in this article is convinced that people's will plays a large part in the actual moment of their death.
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I've just read this article, and also found it fascinating, not just how (some)people's will plays a part in when they die, but also in when they have been able to recover from a 'terminal' condition. A relation of mine suffered a ruptured aorta 4 years ago, was rushed to hospital, and was put into a clinical coma on life support machines, and we were told that he would not survive. After 2 weeks of being in this critical condition, his partner who had been at his bedside every day holding his hand and talking to him and getting no indication as to whether he could hear her, told him that, if he was so weary and in such pain, she would understand if he wanted to let go. She contacted his son over 2,000 miles away, whom he hadn't seen for a couple of years after a family rift, who flew to his father's bedside, took his hand and said 'Dad, its *****, if you can hear me squeeze my hand'....and he did, and soon after came out of the coma, made what the doctors described as a miraculous recovery, and is now living a full and happy life wiwth his beloved partner, and in close contact with his son. I'm sure many of us know of such life and death instances.
An interesting topic Linda.
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Can I just add a quick footnote to my last post - as my relative is also a member of the Forum and lives abroad, if he should read this, hope you don't mind me telling this story. I'm sure you wont,[  ]
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Thanks for sharing, Smithy - what a marvellous story.
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This is a very emotive subject for me, but I feel that I have a few words to add.
When my late wife was near to the end, after a ten year struggle against cancer, we were all well prepared. Help from all the agencies had been excellent. Our local doctor used to call each evening as she went home, but one evening as she was leaving she just looked at me, I needed no words, we both knew.
The Marie Curie nurse sent for us in the early hours to be with Margaret, my son had to travel fourteen miles from Sheffield. As we gathered around, she smiled and we told her Derek was coming. She had a very peaceful look on her face when Derek arrived, smiled at him, and was gone. Margaret waited until we were all there, before leaving us.
We completed all the arrangements and after she had left the house a strong scent of fresias was everywhere, her favourite flower. No-one knew where it came from, but one of my grand daughters said " Grandma has just said goodbye". The scent went away.
It was a dismal February day, and a busy one but as evening came, there was a brilliant sunset, and the same grand daughter looked at it and said "Look, Grandma is telling us that she has arrived" and the sunset faded into night.
As I said, it is very emotive for me, and still is, is there a reason? Is there something we do not comprehend at the moment of
Passing?
I leave these few lines with you to think about, it is a journey we all have to make some day. As I said, very emotive.
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Emotive indeed, Bill - it brought tears to my eyes and I'm sure I won't be the only one. Thank you for sharing a very personal story.
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Very moving, as was Pat's. Thankyou for sharing that.
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William your posting brings peace and great comfort and has a great deal more significance at this time of the year. Your story is like a rainbow on that cloudy day when the sun peeks through. I am going to bed now but will think of your and your wife. Thankyou for sharing it with us. Fear of the unknown is in us all but hearing stories like yours and Pats helps deminish it.
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Many years aago my Father who had never had a serious illness took to his bed. The day before he had paid all the bills and tidied up his desk, after 24 hrs in bed he asked my mother to call the doctor he was rushed into Airedale hospital and we were told it was only a matter of time. I returned home to Lancashire only to get a call asking me back as the end was iminent I rushed back to the hospital to be told he was in a coma. I went into see him held his hand and said /I am here he opened his eyes said look after Mum and that was it, as if he waited for me..... very emotional.
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I know with cast-iron certainty that that people can control the time of their passing. The moving accounts posted above only goes to bear this out.
My mother, who was quite elderly, was given only a few days to live and so my brother and I took turns to stay with her. I received a call in the early hours from my brother that I should get there as soon as possible. It took about an hour to arrive. I sat down at the opposite side of the bed to my brother and took her free hand. She looked at each of us and passed away. My brother said, " You know she waited, don`t you?". Nothing in this world will convince me otherwise.
Jim
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